I want ham on creating tags when I first got Stash, and very quickly burned out on actually applying them.
Initially I was also maintaining image assets for them on-creation, but the program I was using to generate the images really didn’t like how many jpgs/pngs I had in the library (since I was using a tool to consistently make them the same size and shape) - and the file containing the first 200-250 icons corrupted, which really killed a lot of my motivation (although I had fortunately exported them all).
I still intend to create assets for all of them when I’m “finished”, but I’m still scraping my way through an 8TB collection - and long-gone are the days when I was manually tagging every scene. Now I just import most of the scraped tags, and then every couple of days I go in and merge/manually rename/categories the imported tags (so all the different ways studios describe a threesome are only a single tag in my system).
I’m not happy with my category tree, though; and I’m not happy with some of the decisions I made early on, which will likely require a lot of effort to revise. Something like “Dildo”, which beginner-me envisioned because a category full of “Cismale inserts dildo in anus”, wasn’t prepared for when I encountered vaginal dildo usage, and oral dildo usage, or even non-penatrative dildo usage, and whether the performer is doing it themselves or if someone is doing it to them. I substantially underestimated the scope for so many of my early categories.
I’m gay, and so my initial tags “assume all interactions are between two cismales with a penis and an anus” - but as I trawled through my collection, it quickly became apparent that I neglected to factor the fact I have straight and bi porn in my collection too, as well as porn that features transmen and transwomen, and even nullos/bodily-modified individuals. “Fisting” should have probably been “Anal Fisting” from the start - and while that one was an easy fix, others weren’t. I have such an internal conflict on whether I should distinguish Anal (MM) from Anal (MF) from Anal (FM) from Anal (MT) and so on, or whether I should use two separate tags and assume I’ll search for Anal+MM in the future. But then you get situations where if Anal (MM) and Blowjob (MF) appears in the scene, Anal+MF wouldn’t know that the MF doesn’t relate to the Anal. And then I also feel a pang of social/moral guilt for wanting to distinguish Ciswoman Vaginal content from Transman Vaginal content. Referring back to the gay thing, I’m also very unlikely to actually use tags relating to acts performed by ciswomen - but I still feel compelled to label them.
Beginner-me also made the awful decision that I wouldn’t tag videos with appearance-based tags (i.e. I wouldn’t apply age/hair colour/tattoos/etc to scenes). My category tree at the time had performer-tags and scene-tags. Stupid, stupid-me neglected to even consider that people age; that people dye their hair; that people go bald; that people get tattoos. A performer having tattoos in 2025 doesn’t mean all their videos contain a performer with tattoos.
Some part of me really wishes that tags innately had “tiers”, like adding extra toppings to a pizza - to distinguish something that happens once from something that is the entire premise of the scene. Like… “Someone’s toes get sucked during a single position” versus “this entire video is about foot play”. I dunno, if I had access to this I would probably still be frustrated several months later. I think my frustration is just that past-me has to make decisions that present-me will still agree with, all the while knowing future-me will also have criticisms. Striving for scalable/future-proof, and failing.
This is probably just a case of my neurodivergent/human need to put things in neat boxes, but just like the rest of human experience/life - it doesn’t actually fit into boxes, and the more granular you get in order to categorize the edge-cases, the less useful it is to even think of them as being in boxes. When you get to the point that you have a category for every individual thing: they might as well be uncategorized. But knowing this doesn’t stop me wanting to find the perfect category tree.